This weekend at the bar (No, I’m not an alcoholic — I own a small sports bar), I overheard three women complaining about men. They weren’t just complaining; they were ranting. A big part of what I heard was about not understanding what men want.
Well ladies, men are pretty simple. While females oftentimes like to play games and analyze things too much, men are much more basic. Though I’m not speaking for all men out there, here are five qualities that a man wants in his woman.
This is the most obvious, right? But attractive doesn’t mean model looks or lots of makeup. Though beauty is in the eye of the beholder, generally men want a woman who is not overly thin, is physically fit, and takes good care of herself. (Side note: I love a girl with curves, but fatties need not apply.)
Like it or not, femininity includes superficial things like putting on lipstick, wearing a dress sometimes and not cursing in public. Though I like my women to be a little bit sassy, she needs to have a kind, gentle side to her. For a long term relationship, men want a woman that they can imagine as a good mother.
I don’t mean submissive in terms of sex or anything like that (unless that’s what you are into). But most men want a woman who knows her role. And part of that role is being submissive to her partner on occasion. For example, let’s imagine you are married or in a long term relationship and trying to make a decision about something important as a couple. If you can’t come to a compromise, then the woman needs to back down and trust the man’s decision. He’s the man of the house and there are times that she needs to let him dominate.
If you don’t know how to cook, please learn. If you want your man to put down the toilet seat and take out the trash, you should be able to fix a home-cooked meal. I find far too many women these days that think cooking consists of microwaving Lean Cuisine. Learn five or six dishes that you can make really well. Throughout time, the adage holds true: “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”
No one wants a dead fish in bed. Don’t be squeamish or reluctant about giving oral sex or trying new things. If you going to go down on your man, don’t act like it grossing you out. Do it right and please swallow. Spitting isn’t attractive. Not. At. All. And missionary position should be a rare occurrence, not the only thing you know.