The vagina is complicated. Read on to obtain a better understanding of the key elements to a successful session with your woman’s nether regions – or what I like to call, Headucation.
Easy does it.
Most men make the mistake of starting out a little too rough – hands and mouth included. Remember, your woman’s womanhood is a delicate flower, and must be treated as such (until she directs you otherwise). Just keep that in mind next time you start going down on her. You want to start with gentle touches and kisses, and slowly ease her into a more rhythmic motion as you open her up. Pipe up if you’re not sure and ask, “Is this okay?” Communication is key in obtaining an orgasm, and perhaps she might be too shy to let you know. Give her the remote to control how you go down, and by encouraging her to give you feedback, the better it is for both parties involved.
Use your extremities wisely.
This tip correlates with Tip #1. Subsidizing the whole experience with penetration from your fingers is certainly an efficient and effective approach to getting her off. However, be careful that you use this technique to enhance the entire act, and not take over the brunt of the work (which is your TONGUE and MOUTH). Women can’t stand men that get lazy in this area – it’s such a disappointment. Again, each woman is different, so try to read her cues. She may or may not want quick movement but instead something deep and slow at first while simultaneously stimulating her outer goodies orally.
It’s all about stamina.
Two things count with your head game, and that’s 1) pressure and 2) speed. Be sure that you can maintain both, at the same time, with both your hands and your mouth. For any guys out there complaining, allow me to repeat this quote from Samantha Jones, sexpert from Sex and the City, to drive home my point: “You men have no idea what we’re dealing with down there. Teeth placement, and jaw stress, and suction, and gag reflex, and all the while bobbing up and down, moaning and trying to breathe through our noses. Easy? Honey, they don’t call it a job for nothing.”
Don’t ignore the rest of the terrain.
While going down on your lady, a random boob squeeze will just not do. Does your jaw need a break? Then feel free to pay attention to our other erogenous zones. Caress the back of our knees, kiss our inner thighs with your wet face and mouth, tease our nipples with your fingertips. And before you just jump right in to our lady parts, why not slowly make your way down there first, with passionate kisses on her neck, back, arms, and chest. Think of it as a warm-up to the main event.