Contrary to popular belief, part of doing the bedroom tango means not only making sure your needs are attended to, but also ensuring that your partner’s are, also. That’s also a good gauge for whether or not you are good in bed. Too many men out there go down for a little bit, lick here, touch there, do their thing, and then POW! It’s over. And too many women are sick of it. So if getting her off is anywhere in your radar, perhaps the following tips will help you (and her) get there.
Foreplay, foreplay, and more foreplay. Women need lots of foreplay, and thankfully for you, it’s not limited to just the bedroom. Foreplay is any and every encounter leading up to the actual event. It can consists of flirty exchanges in person, on text, or by email and phone. It can be a thoughtful gift or a fun and sexy date that you know she’d love. Basically anything that gets a woman to like you, trust you, and overall feel more and more comfortable and at ease with you. And that’s just the beginning…
Take your time. Once you’ve hit the sheets together, don’t rush to get her pants or your pants off; there’ll be plenty of time for that. Start with sensual kisses, paying attention to her erogenous zones, like her neck, shoulders, and upper arms. Back massages are always a good start, as they will make her feel relaxed and euphoric. And all the sensual, physical touching will turn her on, too. Let her initiate contact with your manhood. It will lessen the pressure to just jump right in, and the less pressure, the more chances of her making that “O” face.
Listen to her body and cater to her hot spots. Every woman has her hot spots – those areas on her body that, when touched and caressed, make her go crazy. As mentioned before, don’t ignore those body parts that, while they don’t seem the most sexual, actually are. That crevice right between her clamshell and thigh, the backside of her arms or neck, her hair and head, her feet (make sure they’re clean). As for the more obvious lady parts, ease into them. Watch and look for cues as to what makes her feel good (do more of) and what doesn’t (avoid).
Go easy…at first. Make sure you open her up by going slowly and gently at first, and ease her into the rest of the act. On the contrary to porn, your dick is not a knife that which to stab us with. Be easy, and use slow but firm motions in the beginning. Let her body get used to you being inside her, then make sure she’s comfortable and work up to a harder thrust. Trust me, this works.
Find a good rhythm that works for you both. You may need some faster movement, and so might she, eventually, but for the majority of the act, find a balance that works for you both. That could take some position changing, but with a couple of tries you can usually get it right. The point is to get into a groove that you can maintain while building her climax. Again, try different angles and positions so that it works for both of your bodies. It’s a trial and error thing… And certainly, practice makes perfect!