There are certain innate female characteristics that, of when exists even the faintest hint, men go running in the other direction. Truth be told, whether it be symptomatic of her or your relationship, everyone and every bond has its issues. Perhaps some greater than others, but in the end, when deciding whether to stick it our or jump ship, an acute analysis of the situation is necessary. And that includes looking at the overall picture. Contrary to popular belief, there IS no such thing as the perfect woman (sorry boys). As such, I have outlined below a few examples of what characteristics can either be improved or overlooked, and which ones should have you abort the mission with the quickness.
HOLD: She Nags from Time to Time.
FOLD: She’s the Queen of Guilt Trips.
Women nag because they care, and we care because we’re caretakers by nature. We want a clean home and a healthy spouse. Whether it’s to put your shoes away in the apartment, stop eating so much red meat, or chill out on the binge drinking, we were put on this earth to remind you of those bad habits that you, as a grown ass man, should probably curb. Now, if it’s to the point where her nagging has evolved to consistently making you feel guilty for every little thing you do, then it might be time to re-evaluate if she really does have your best interests in mind, or if she is Hitler dressed as a woman in the form of your girlfriend.
HOLD: She Can be Vain.
FOLD: She is in Constant Need of Reassurance.
A little vanity is okay. Without it, your girlfriend would simply let herself go. Let’s face it – women are works of art. Everything from our face to our shape to our hair, make-up, and clothes – the way we look is one of our biggest assets. So, sometimes a bit of primping and priming is in order. Perhaps it takes her a couple hours to get ready. Or so what if she wears lipstick to the gym. The dealbreaker in this situation would be if her vanity stems from a deep-seated insecurity, one that is taxing in the form of constant reassurance. There is a vast difference between a strong woman that feels confident in her beauty – and as a result can be self-centered in that way – and a cripplingly insecure woman that selfishly requires a succession of compliments from morning to night and has an emotional breakdown without them.
HOLD: Your Bedroom Chemistry Could Use a Little Work.
FOLD: Your Bedroom Chemistry is Non-Existent.
There are a lot of different reasons why bedroom fever can be lacking; sometimes it just takes some time to get used to each other’s bodies, or perhaps your girlfriend (or even you) could use a bit of a sexual awakening. However, so long as there is a mutual physical attraction, and both parties are dedicated to learning how to arouse the other’s senses in order to jive sexually, then it’s worth sticking it out and giving the activities inside the boudoir a chance to catch up to what else is so great and working perfectly in other areas of the relationship. Now, if the tension in your bed is so cold that you could freeze diamonds like Ben Baller, it might be time to search for a new wifey.
HOLD: She is a Little Jealous.
FOLD: She Won’t Let You Leave the House.
Jealousy in small, incremental amounts is actually healthy. It’s one way of communicating that a person is wanted. Imagine if you were going on a weekend bachelor party excursion in Miami, Vegas, or San Juan, and your girlfriend didn’t even bat an eye at the fact that you’d be around so many half-naked to naked women. That would be odd. However, it is a completely separate thing – and quite debilitating – if your girlfriend freaks out over every single encounter with any other female – from the Starbucks barista to the gas station attendant. That kind of extreme jealousy almost always stems from deep-seated insecurity, just as vanity may also be a symptom. This type of crazy insecurity means bigger issues that might need her to seek help, whether in the form of professional advice or some time to self-reflect. Make sure she’s super duper worth it and be aware of that road to recovery from low self-esteem if you are truly smitten.