While Mayim Bialik has declared herself to be a modern feminist, some of the comments she made about Harvey Weinstein’s accusers left many people shocked.
In an op-ed for The New York Times titled, “Being a Feminist in Harvey Weinstein’s World,” the Big Bang Theory basically patted herself on the back for not having had to deal with sexual harassment in Hollywood because she has “experienced the upside of not being a ‘perfect 10.’”
Okay… She wrote:
“As a proud feminist with little desire to diet, get plastic surgery or hire a personal trainer, I have almost no personal experience with men asking me to meetings in their hotel rooms. Those of us in Hollywood who don’t represent an impossible standard of beauty have the ‘luxury’ of being overlooked and, in many cases, ignored by men in power unless we can make them money.”
On its own, maybe that’s not the nicest thing to say so the 41-year-old actress went a step further adding, “I have decided that my sexual self is best reserved for private situations with those I am most intimate with. I dress modestly. I don’t act flirtatiously with men as a policy.”
Hmmm… alrighty. Even if she has these opinions and even if there was some validity to it, now is not the time for that AND the written word can be so easily misinterpreted that it’s shocking she doesn’t realize that this could come off as extremely offensive – especially to people who were sexually assaulted as children while wearing normal clothes and definitely not flirting with anyone.
She wasn’t done, though. She needed to alienate or offend everyone first.
“I am entirely aware that these types of choices might feel oppressive to many young feminists,” she wrote. “Women should be able to wear whatever they want. They should be able to flirt however they want with whomever they want. Why are we the ones who have to police our behavior? In a perfect world, women should be free to act however they want. But our world isn’t perfect. Nothing—absolutely nothing—excuses men for assaulting or abusing women. But we can’t be naïve about the culture we live in.”
Actress Patricia Arquette wasted no time and tweeted: “@missmayim229 I have to say I was dressed non provocatively as a 12 year old when men on the street masturbated at me. It’s not clothing.”
Gabrielle Union also tweeted a powerful response: “Reminder. I got raped at work at a Payless shoe store. I had on a long tunic & leggings so miss me w/ “dress modestly” shit.”
In response, Bialik said: “I’m being told my N.Y. Times piece resonated with so many and I am beyond grateful for all of the feedback. I also see a bunch of people have taken my words out of the context of the Hollywood machine and twisted them to imply that God forbid I would blame a woman for her assault based on her clothing or behavior. Anyone who knows me and my feminism knows that’s absurd and not at all what this piece was about. It’s so sad how vicious people are being when I basically live to make things better for women.”