A woman who publicly married herself two years ago has now come forward to reveal that she was the victim of infidelity… because she cheated on herself by having an affair with a man who also ended up marrying himself. My head hurts.
Sophie Bennett, who said her vows at the 2015 Brighton Fringe arts festival in Brighton, England, promised in front of revelers that she would love and honor herself forever after, Metro reported. But it didn’t take long before she fell for Ruari Barrett, a self-avowed polyamorist who set aside his tendencies to try monogamy with Tanner for five months.
Their relationship did not last, but the fling between Tanner and Barrett lead him to decide that marrying himself was something that he could also get behind. Now, the pair is hoping to explain to confused onlookers why what they did should be celebrated, not shunned.
“It’s saying that self-compassion and self-care is as important as romantic relationships,” Tanner said of the practice of self-marriage. “It doesn’t mean you’re rejecting all other meaningful relationships in your life and becoming a nun forevermore. It means you’re rejecting bad relationships.”
Apparently a five-month relationship with a monogamous polyamorist doesn’t count as a “bad relationship,” but who’s to judge? Tanner went on to claim that her vows were a way to protest people’s fixation with finding flaws in themselves.
“If only there were more self-love in the world, we wouldn’t need ceremonies like this,” she said. “This is a statement which looks to raise the profile of self-love, saying it’s as important as romantic love and doing it as a formal ceremony as anyone else would have a wedding.”
But – I wondered after realizing that I’ve eaten pizza for every meal this week — can you divorce yourself? “Marrying yourself is a lifelong commitment to be responsible for your own happiness, so divorce is not an option,” Tanner explained.