Comments on: Healthy Eating, Disordered Mind?

By: ttfn300

ttfn300 — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:23:58 +0000

very enlightening, thank you for this post…

By: JJ125

JJ125 — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 23:05:21 +0000

Yeah if we could all have the same relationship with food as men do…. but then all these food blogs would disappear and what would I have to do while I am at work? Oh wait….

I think as women is it hard to have a 100% healthy relationship with food. I mean we are always conscious of calories, fat grams, nutrition, etc, ESPECIALLY if we are healthy eaters. That is where the slippery slope lies, the line between healthy eater and disordered eater is probably thinner than we would all like to admit. The key I think is being aware of what path YOU are taking. I have chosen to be someone who whups her own ass at the gym rather than someone who weighs and measures her food out religiously to maintain her weight…. is that disordered? I don’t know, I certainly don’t FEEL as though it is disordered as the gym does not rule my life. Then again I don’t think of exercising as punishment or a chore, I love to do it. But does an anorexic see starving herself as a chore? Most of them see their disease as a companion so in effect, they might “love” their disease. It is hard to find that line sometimes. The fact that we all experience these issues and can talk openly a freely about them is a good thing.

By: Sagan

Sagan — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 17:51:24 +0000

I hear you on the actions being healthy but thought processes not- I definitely have issues with that myself sometimes. Thanks for sharing this.

By: monica

monica — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 17:17:49 +0000

There were parts of this post where I thought it was me writing. I experience the same “grumpy hungry” feeling you describe, and yet I am also scared to be full. As soon as I sit down to a meal and take a bite I start worrying about overeating. What’s that all about??!

By: Fitness Insights

Fitness Insights — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 06:06:10 +0000

I think boyfriends need to remember that they have about 20 lbs more muscle and testosterone which keeps their systems metabolism high – next time he hits the sack give him a quick shot of estrogen in the buttocks and see how he balloons up! Not that I did this… ;)

Jamie Atlas from Fitness Insights

By: Kristie

Kristie — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 23:57:10 +0000

Thanks for opening up about this. It’s amazing to hear the thought processes that go through other people’s head surrounding food. It’s sad though because food should be an essential, a fuel, as well as enjoyable. And yet it’s so hard to get away from the obsessive thoughts. I agree with the comment you made about envying how your boyfriend just doesn’t care, doesn’t even think about the food. Eats when hungry, stops when full. Doesn’t need to follow times etc. My eating is very by the clock. I hate that. I very much envy people who can accidentally skip a meal just because they weren’t thinking about it. As much as I love food, I don’t really love the obsession with the need to eat based on time or the problem with being afraid to feel hungry. It’s so frustrating sometimes.

By: Fit Bottomed Girls

Fit Bottomed Girls — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 23:13:24 +0000

Wow, Kelly. Thanks for sharing…that’s some tough honest stuff. I’ve had a problem with guilt and feeling bad for not working out, eating a fatty meal, etc…I’m working on acceptance though. Every day, it’s a choice.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 23:12:22 +0000

Hey, first time commenting on here, but I just had to say how MUCH I can relate to this post. Through recovery, I too have learned to eat by the clock, and now I do plan my days around my eating schedule to some extent, because of my fear of getting too hungry. While my diet is healthy by all means, my thoughts about it are a different story altogether. Thanks for this post, lets me know I’m not alone! :)

By: Kelly Turner

Kelly Turner — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 23:07:35 +0000

charlotte- im working on it too. perhaps pretending it doesnt exsist isnt the best answer. i honestly think i need to care MORE about it (dip into my inner foodie) and give it a little more love. If i put some time and effort into my meals maybe we will become better friends.

By: Kelly Turner

Kelly Turner — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 23:03:32 +0000

tfh- i guess if it keeps me from reverting to bad patterns its a good thing. I just thought Id be able to fully kick it. Be a normal person that doesnt give a second thought to food and can 100% eat intuitively. My counselor told me i will never be “normal” and i have to except that. I will always have that little voice or that little thought that creeps in, but honestly, Id be sad if i didnt have it because it reminds me how far ive come and it feels great to tell it to shut the hell up and eat a hamburger because i remember when i never thought it would be possible.

Angelique- I hate feeling too full as well because it reminds me of my binge days. I hate that i was both anorexic and bulimic because its hard to draw the line. If im full I feel like i gave into a binge habit, and if Im hungry i feel like im depriving myself. Its 1 million times better than it used to be but i still have to check myself every once in a while.

Toni J- thanks! its hard sometimes, because I am recovered, I live a healthy lifestyle and I feel like i have a fine relationship with food, but sometimes I get worried when I feel I am making decisions based on being the complete opposite of how I was when I was sick. Sometimes the other extreme isnt any better. Middle of the road, middle of the road.

Dr J- I could NEVER be an over exerciser. no time, and no discipline. Plus, workouts are my solice, so if i started to abuse them I wouldnt have anything left to keep me sane.

Maggie- “let myself eat.” Food isnt a privilege you earn- you NEED it. Exercise isnt the opposite of food. Think of food as fuel for your workouts/life. they go hand in hand. They are like brothers. or BFFs. or something.

Sassy-I dont envy my boyfriends eating patterns because its all hot pockets and microwave chicken, but i do envy that he just doesnt care. He’ll go all day without eating because he “forgot”. Its just a non-issue. I would kill for food to be a non-issue.