How to Convince Her to have a Threesome

Imagine this. It is Saturday night, you and your girl are enjoying a party and she suggests heading upstairs to a more secluded area. Just as you reach the door of an unoccupied bedroom, a chick opens it but instead of being embarrassed, she welcomes you inside. As you turn the lock, you become witness to the most blessed of events. Your woman is getting it on with a lady friend and as they start to peel the layers off of each other, a finger beckons you to join.

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Well dream on fellas because that crap only happens in the movies! In real life, you have got to work for your threesome. It takes effort, time, and diligence to make it happen.

First, if you are an unattached male and you imagine having a threesome, wake up because only the very rich or the very lucky are able to pull off that feat. The rest of us have to figure out how to convince the girl we’re with that it is a good idea and that means work.

Second, you have to find out where her interests lie. If the chick is a bar kisser (what I call the gals who only dig each other for free drinks on the weekends) then you better find out how far south she is willing to use her tongue on the female body. In most cases, I’ve heard the “I won’t do it but I’ll let someone do it to me” line. It is inevitably frustrating but allows for options. This means if you are able to find your unicorn, the single bi-sexual female, then it can be on like Donkey Kong. Good luck with that one!

Now, if your girlfriend approaches you with the idea of bringing another person into your bedroom, you can rely on one thing. She has someone in mind. Her eyes have been wandering and found a desiring body. There are even times when this scenario has already been discussed without your knowledge and she is simply angling for your consent. (Beware though, this happened to me and I ended up on the outside looking in.)

The first time that I was able to enjoy a ménage a trios, it wasn’t of the female, female, male variety. I was the lucky bastard who happened in on his roommate banging and she invited me in. I can remember her coy smile perfectly and the consenting shrug of his shoulders, like it were yesterday. Both leading to one of the most eye opening experiences of my life; watching a dude nail a girl is hot.

In subsequent years, I discussed the possibility of a threesome with numerous girlfriends and always found that I had to work at it until the time was right. We would watch porn together, talk about our fantasies, try role play, all leading to the one night when I could ask if she wanted to try bringing in another person. Once a yes or no answer was obtained there was still more work to do. I had to determine if she was leaning more towards the idea of a man or a woman. Admittedly, I had to put my foot down a few times about what I was unwilling to do too but generally only the girls had reservations. Finding a guy to join the festivities usually isn’t hard. Within a day or two, I knew who we were going to ask. Cutting a mare from the herd though is never easy. It takes reconnaissance, research, and then poise to ascertain a proper subject.

My number one recommendation before deciding if a threesome if right for you is to think about it because following thru will change the dynamic of your relationship forever. You will cross lines and boundaries that can’t be uncrossed. Sometimes things work out great but there are other times when that one night of fun causes a permanent crash and burn. You need to discuss what everyone is comfortable with, set up rules, make sure that no one feels pressured, and that pleasure is had by all. Because, hell, it was your idea.