Learning to Accept Criticism

Criticism is tough to take, no matter how nicely someone says it. I have an especially hard time taking criticism, even though I can see the value of constructive criticism, it is still a hard pill to swallow. I’m not so good with that pride thing. Sometimes, I just get angry.

I know just how you feel, my friend. Image: sxc.hu

I’m getting better, though. I’ve learned in the writing world that not everyone is going to love what you’ve written as much as you do. Clients will ask for revisions. Edits will be needed. You’re going to have to change your work, even stuff you consider to be your baby. The very best work you think you can write may not be the best to the person reading it; every person will have a different opinion. And when you’re a writer, the only opinion that matters is that of the person paying you for the project.

Here are some the best two tips that I’ve used to get over myself. Criticism is a good thing. I promise.

• Read the comments and walk away. If you fire an email back or try to make the corrects right away, you might be too mad to act professionally. So, when someone criticized you, even if is constructive, step away from the project for a moment if you feel yourself getting defensive.

• Remember, it isn’t personal. In the vast majority of cases, the criticism you receive aren’t personal. If the client didn’t like your work, he or she wouldn’t have hired you. Of course, there are exceptions to this rule – some clients are just rude or personally attack you. In most cases, though, keep in mind that your work isn’t you.

Of course, it also helps to purchase some ice cream or McDonald’s French fries and bitch about it to your best friends when you’re mad about an editing request or other criticism. Then, bite the bullet and be a professional.

What has helped you deal with criticism and the upset feelings that can stem from it?