Pulling Off A One Night Stand

I know that most people think that finding someone is about searching for your partner. For the most part, they are right. However, there are those times when I don’t want to have to search for Miss Right and I narrow the scope down to Miss Right Now.

I’ve found that the majority of the time that I’ve been able to accomplish such wonders, the circumstances were relatively similar.

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First, it is unlikely that a girl you meet on a dating site or on a set-up is going to give it up on the first go round. The events are usually scheduled out in advance and a time frame is involved as well. One nighters need to be spontaneous and while it isn’t impossible to make it happen on a date, it is not likely. Meeting someone on from eHarmony or OkCupid is about finding someone to date, not someone to bang.

Second, focus your attention on girls you meet casually. I’ve picked up girls at a party, at a club, even at karaoke. Not one of whom ever received a call from me after our late night antics. Just remember that you may have to reclassify what your standards are. If she has an annoying laugh or wears too much makeup, it won’t matter because it isn’t like you are going to see her again.

Third, cut your mare from the herd. Girls tend to travel in packs and there is always a den mother amongst them. You’ll need to try and get the object of your temporary affections alone in order to set up the bait. I find that working with a wingman is the best course of action.

Fourth, don’t choose the drunken girl! No one wants to deal with the aftermath of a bad decision because of alcohol. She needs to be cognizant enough to give consent and five cosmos does not count as sober.

Finally, once you’ve found the girl, got her alone, made sure she was your type and that no one is impaired; it is time to make the proposition. I go for the “want to get out of here?” line a lot and that tends to work. I’ve also tried telling her that it was too loud and we should go somewhere to talk. If I give compliments, I attempt to make them genuine and not generic.

It takes some effort to pull off a one night stand but it is a lot less trouble than worrying about starting a relationship, just make sure she knows that too.