Comments on: Who doesn’t get it? Me! http://www.everyjoe.com/articles/who-doesnt-get-it-me/ Sports News - Tech Reviews - Entertainment - Life Tips for EveryJoe Tue, 01 Dec 2009 20:03:07 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Max Leibman http://www.everyjoe.com/articles/who-doesnt-get-it-me/comment-page-1/#comment-310566 Max Leibman Sun, 14 May 2006 20:47:51 +0000 http://slackermanager.com/2006/05/who-doesnt-get-it-me.html#comment-310566 <p>Great advice! All the techniques and experience in communication, marketting, teaching and even psychology won't give you control over the other party's experience of your expression. You only ever truly have power over one side of the conversation--yours. We must take responsibility for what we can control if we wish to be heard and understood!</p> Great advice! All the techniques and experience in communication, marketting, teaching and even psychology won’t give you control over the other party’s experience of your expression. You only ever truly have power over one side of the conversation–yours. We must take responsibility for what we can control if we wish to be heard and understood!

]]> By: Eric http://www.everyjoe.com/articles/who-doesnt-get-it-me/comment-page-1/#comment-310565 Eric Fri, 12 May 2006 14:29:56 +0000 http://slackermanager.com/2006/05/who-doesnt-get-it-me.html#comment-310565 <p>David answered your question with the same wisdom that teaches us to take responsibility for our own communication. I work in the academic world where most of the physicians would be so much more effective if they would implement just this one concept.</p> <p>Thanks for sharing Bren and David. -Eric</p> David answered your question with the same wisdom that teaches us to take responsibility for our own communication. I work in the academic world where most of the physicians would be so much more effective if they would implement just this one concept.

Thanks for sharing Bren and David. -Eric

]]> By: Krasen T. http://www.everyjoe.com/articles/who-doesnt-get-it-me/comment-page-1/#comment-310567 Krasen T. Fri, 12 May 2006 10:53:43 +0000 http://slackermanager.com/2006/05/who-doesnt-get-it-me.html#comment-310567 <p>We need to learn to agree to disagree sometimes. I've noticed that most of the time when I have an argument with someone I'm the one that says ok you are right and I'm wrong I'll do it the way you say, but at the end I do everything my own way.</p> We need to learn to agree to disagree sometimes. I’ve noticed that most of the time when I have an argument with someone I’m the one that says ok you are right and I’m wrong I’ll do it the way you say, but at the end I do everything my own way.

]]> By: David Maister http://www.everyjoe.com/articles/who-doesnt-get-it-me/comment-page-1/#comment-310570 David Maister Wed, 10 May 2006 11:12:12 +0000 http://slackermanager.com/2006/05/who-doesnt-get-it-me.html#comment-310570 <p>Why do we keep doing things when we know better? All of us? A key part of the answer is recognizing the difference between knowledge and skill. We may know that we should do something differently, but since we don't have the practice, we are not very artful at it. So, we then stumble a bit, and lapse back into attributing blame instead of continuing to work at our skills. It's just EASIER to blame others than to build new capabilites!</p> Why do we keep doing things when we know better? All of us? A key part of the answer is recognizing the difference between knowledge and skill. We may know that we should do something differently, but since we don’t have the practice, we are not very artful at it. So, we then stumble a bit, and lapse back into attributing blame instead of continuing to work at our skills. It’s just EASIER to blame others than to build new capabilites!

]]> By: Bob Owen http://www.everyjoe.com/articles/who-doesnt-get-it-me/comment-page-1/#comment-310569 Bob Owen Wed, 10 May 2006 10:04:36 +0000 http://slackermanager.com/2006/05/who-doesnt-get-it-me.html#comment-310569 <p>It's something I have been learning over and over again as well. In the seven habits, Steven Covey gives a piece of advice that has served me very well in this regard: "Seek first to understand. Then to be understood." Often, it seems, we will not succeed in making our own points, until the other party truly believes we have herd and understood theirs.</p> <p>Also I've been listening to an audio book, available via iTunes, called Difficult Conversations. I'm a little more than mid way through. It seems to be and well done embellishment on Covey's advice.</p> It’s something I have been learning over and over again as well. In the seven habits, Steven Covey gives a piece of advice that has served me very well in this regard: “Seek first to understand. Then to be understood.” Often, it seems, we will not succeed in making our own points, until the other party truly believes we have herd and understood theirs.

Also I’ve been listening to an audio book, available via iTunes, called Difficult Conversations. I’m a little more than mid way through. It seems to be and well done embellishment on Covey’s advice.

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